BACKSTABBED!
Detox yourself now from that friendemy.
and learn to rise above friendship politics that go bad
so you've been betrayed by the one friend you thought was your soul mate and confidante.A violation of trust-especially by a close friend-can sometimes cause even more trauma than a philandering boyfriend .After all,the debris of many a broken relationship has eventually been cleared over endless tubs of chocolate ice cream and the undying support of your best friends.But who do you turn to when the hurt was caused by that very best friend herself?
COMING TO TERMS
With realisation hitting you like a ton of bricks,you would probably start to doubt your self worth.Frantic quetions like "Did i deserve this?" or "why would she do this to me?" would probably pop in your head every ten seconds.
A word of advise ,girls:as much as you feel that the world is possibly turning its back on you,remember no amount of skewed logic could justify one human being spitefully backstabbing another-let alone a trusted friend.
Don't wallow in self-pity or,worse still,blame yourself.If there's anyone you need to be on your side,it shouldf be you.Take a step back,asses the situation logically,and keep your cool.
REACTIONS
Screaming at your backstabber might seem a very attractive option to vent your anger and disappointment-unfortunately,although intensely satisfying,it may not be the most mature of reactions.
Take a feep breath and take some time to think about it:if someone could bring themselves to betray you to a point ehere you feel this horrible ,are they really worth keeping as a friend?You would be a much happier person without such people in your lives.
Once you have acknowledged this fact,you can concentrate on fixing more important things.What has the backstabbing drama done to you?Has it affected your reputation?It would be better to focus your energy on clarifying matters with people who truly matter.
WORKING THINGS OUT
If there are many remnants of the relationship you feel deserve to be salvaged and worked out,the honest upfront method is the way to go.Never get back at her using the same underhanded means employed,as that would only lower yourself to her level.Instead,choose to broach the subject directly,yet keep an open mind as she explain herself.you never know-the real situation could be very different from what you've been hearing.
MOVING ON
allowing ourselves to wallow in momentary self-pity ius completely fine,but take example from the girls featured who moved on to better things.Getting backstabbed sure is a horid experience,but its not the end of the world.Take heart that there are many things to learn from and us ethem to better ourselves and prove that we will not make the same mistake as those who have wronged us.
wow what an article.this article have helped me to be stronger.it also taught me to let go of things as the bad will get their retribution.well with this i've learn alot.Nothing ventured nothing gain=)
One Year, Six Months
By Yellowcard
Sew this up with threads of reason and regret
So I will not forget. I will not forget
How this felt one year six months ago
I know I cannot forget. I cannot forget
I'm falling into memories of you and things we used to do
Follow me there
A beautiful somewhere
A place that I can share with you
I can tell that you don't know me anymore
It's easy to forget, sometimes we just forget
And being on this road is anything but sure
Maybe we'll forget, I hope we don't forget
I'm falling into memories of you and things we used to do
Follow me there
A beautiful somewhere
A place that I can share with you
So many nights, legs tangled tight
Wrap me up in a dream with you
Close up these eyes, try not to cry
All that I've got to pull me through is memories of you
Memories of you
Memories of you
Memories of you
I'm falling into memories of you and things we used to do
Follow me there.A beautiful somewhere.A place that i can share with you
